Show my children that keeping score is a sign of immaturity. Show them that forgiveness is defined by their actions … and that if they truly forgive someone who offended or hurt them, their actions towards that person will communicate that fact. Rather than withdraw their spirit and retreat into a protective shell around those who have brought pain to their lives or rather than boil over with anger in their presence … my children will have the courage to ACT in love towards them … offering patience and acts of kindness. They don’t have to stay in relationship, that requires earned trust, but they must be able to smile and have a genuine heart of forgiveness towards the offenders.
Matthew 17, 1Corinthians 13:4